When we're very much into a series, we usually find ourselves relating to one of the characters. Yes? Agree?
When I was starting to get hooked on One Tree Hill, I didn't expect to see myself in one of the girls in the series mainly because they're in high school. It didn't seem like there was someone who would fit the bill. Or I must have spoken too soon. Come S2 of One Tree Hill, I've grown to love the character of Brooke Davis because even at her lowest moments, she's always been the stronger, I-wont-take-crap-from-anyone female characters. Brooke's character has strengths that I have.
Quiet things no one ever knows
I cried a lot during the part where Marvin "Mouth" McFadden delivered an impromptu peer endorsement for Brooke Davis in the episode Quiet Things That No One Ever Knows.
In the series, Brooke Davis was always judged badly by others. I'm so sure that this also happens in the real world —— people pass judgment on others just because they talk this way or because they speak their minds, etc. People judge, without asking. People judge, without understanding. People judge because it makes them feel superior over other individuals. People judge because it probably makes them feel good. It sucks, right? I have had my share of situations when others have already "marked" me even before they get the chance to know me. It gets worse when you're aware and you well know who is saying what about you. While I will truly never understand what motivates those who recklessly judge others away, I have always made a conscious effort to not be anything like that. Yes, it can be avoided.
I used to mind and I usually tell the person off, but as I got older I have mastered the art of not tolerating such actions by simply shrugging it off and letting those who really know me speak on my behalf. As a functioning and responsible adult, I know that time is valuable and I choose to spend mine wisely. When I sense that someone is about to give me another judgmental rant, I walk away. And, if it happens in the workplace, I let my performance and actual, tangible results reflect the kind of person that I am.
There will always be that one person who will always have a problem with you. So, when things go out of hand and all the crap pile up, trust that we all have Mouth McFaddens in our lives who will genuinely be there for us and will stand up for us when the time comes. These are the people who deserve our time, friendship, and love. I don't know if I can convince you to watch One Tree Hill, but please, indulge me on this. This is a portion from Mouth McFadden's speech in one of the episodes of OTH's S2, EP14.
"She never cared what clique I was part of, the kinds of clothes I wore or the fact that I have to ride the bus. She looked past that stuff. This year, Brooke's had her share of ups and downs. Just like all of us, but most of you never saw it. Because even when life got hard, Brooke never let it in. She was just - Brooke. Tough, smart, one-of-a-kind." - OTH, Quiet Things No One Ever Knows || Watch it in YouTube
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Image Credit: digiday
Be the bigger person, all the time.
I still can't grasp what pushes people to harshly judge someone. And, as if not enough damage has been done, the source unknowingly exerts extra effort to broadcast the bad stuff which feeds on others who share that common interest. It's when extra actions are taken that things are blown out of proportion. To be the bigger person in these kinds of situations means understanding others rather than passing judgment and most importantly validating whatever the information is before believing it. To be the bigger person means knowing when to tell the other person, "Stop. What you're doing is not helping anyone." To be the bigger person means being able to walk away if you need to.
☮..Peace + ❥_Love + Good Vibes. RUSS.