Two Fridays ago, I turned 23. Again.Ü Add 10 years, that's how old I am.
A few months ago, I had a "cosmic birthday notebook". I remember having a party twice: I saw photos of my 1st birthday and when I turned 7, my Mom threw a birthday party for me in school. When I got older and when I started to work, I'd always make plans for a party-party, but my wanderlust soul always wins me over.
It happened again this year.
I had every intention to throw a party to celebrate my 33 years of existence. Heck, I already have my venue and was ready to send out invites to the 33 people that I was going to invite. However, come week 2 of January, I changed my mind and booked a flight to KL, Malaysia.
I've been loving life more — it is not always a bed of roses, but it makes you a tougher cookie if you'd let it. Heartaches get easier.
- Count your blessings and stop complaining.
- Travel. Seek new adventures. Make new friends. Try something local that you've not eaten before. See the world!
If you get the chance to travel, go for it. Don't think that it's impossible. You have to make it happen. While some of my friends and classmates have been traveling with their parents since they were kids ( the set-up that my parents have is complicated ), I discovered the joys of traveling on my own. It was my first job and one of my former bosses, Cecille Ang, that got me to love traveling and I will always be thankful for that. I have this plan mapped out with me working my way from one local destination to another ( some 10 years ago ) and finally here I am to today constantly feeding this thirst to be in a different city in a different country. It's a wonderfully enriching experience.
- Take lots of photos, you'll be glad you did.Ü
- Always do what is right even when no one's looking.
- Let other people say that you're good.
Sobrang hindi ok ang magbuhat ng sariling bangko slash don't broadcast how awesome you are. Who does not like recognition? But isn't recognition sweeter when it comes from others? When you always give your best no matter how simple a task is, it shows. When you get things done efficiently without overspending, people will notice. Do these and you will never have to prove yourself to anyone.
- Dress appropriately. As Harvey Specter says, appearance is important. How you dress affects how others perceive you.
- Punctuality speaks a lot about you. Correct spelling, math, and also grammar also matter.
- Always strive for excellence & never stop learning. Do not tolerate mediocrity - hindi puede ang puede na.
- Not all your friends are your friends. Faux friends will only be there during good times.
- The people you lose remain a part of you.
That one's from Marc & Angel. Gosh, while I hate to agree with this, it is actually true. BUT heart breaks do get easier as you get older. It's not that you will no longer get hurt, but it's more of you getting better at dealing with it. After all, people say that our past relationships prepare us for our greatest love. Let me share how Marc & Angel beautifully explained this one:
"As life goes on, days rolling into nights, it will become clear that you never really stop missing someone special who’s gone, you just learn to live around the gaping hole of their absence. When you lose someone you can't imagine living without, your heart breaks wide open, and the bad news is you never completely get over the loss. You will never forget them.
However, in a backwards way, this is also the good news. They will live on in the warmth of your broken heart that doesn't fully heal back up, and you will continue to grow and experience life, even with your wound. It's like badly breaking an ankle that never heals perfectly, and that still hurts when you dance, but you dance anyway with a slight limp, and this limp just adds to the depth of your performance and the authenticity of your character."
- Study your competition, watch your back, never be complacent, and always be three steps ahead.
- Be self-sufficient and plan for your future NOW.
Save up for the rainy days ... that kind wherein you won't really have to depend on others when the time comes. Remember the ant-grasshopper fable? Yes, we're only young once and we can't while away during these younger year. The inevitable will happen anyways. Pay your debts, spend wisely, and live within your means.
- If not NOW, when? Don't wait for the right moment. Live in the NOW.