26 November, 2012

Changing perspectives

79 days before my birthday. I have convinced myself that I will have some sort of a celebration next year. I have not had a big celebration, er party, in years. Admittedly, I am not the party animal type. I prefer laid-back trips, but I feel that I ought to really do something. Heck, I forgot about my own birthday last year. Life's dropped me bazillions of surprises in past years combined with the usual busy-ness at work, but this Monday's different.

It was so random.
Out of the blue, I just felt like catching up with one of my best friends this morning who I have not spoken with in a long time because I made a decision to stay away instead of dealing with whatever it was that I felt. I know it wasn't healthy and eventually, I swallowed my pride ( which felt good by the way ) because clearly I wasn't being fair. I realized that some threads in the web of life are never broken.

Changing Perspectives

I trailed away for a while. It may have been necessary — you know how it is when someone close to you is on cloud nine while you on the other hand is feeling rock bottom. And, you don't want to burst their happy bubble and be called "KJ" or kill joy? So you just have to walk away for a while. I was in that awkward situation.

Later on and as I got over my little drama, patterns have become interesting. When I showed compassion and became mindful of others, things just go into this wondrous pattern of emergence and re-emergence. Sometimes the patterns are surprising or can be disconcerting, but I know at the end of the day, everything just becomes glorious all the same.Ü I am lucky that the people closest to me understand and know me well enough. Even if we don't see each other as often as we used to, there is this strange but amazingly beautiful connection that will always be there and our friendship is stronger than ever. I'll see you soon, JESS G.  ☮..Peace + ❥_Love + Good Vibes. RUSS.


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30 comments:

Debarpan said...

we all should celebrate our own birthday as this is the day we came to the earth and it comes only once in a year.

Eslam yosef said...

I loved the story of this glorious day, doing better makes the life better and you did. Keep the awesome work :)

Shayn Summer said...

That was kinda sad and I can relate to that. I hope some people can be more thoughtful. Everyone change, but we have to be optimistic. We shoudn't dwell to loss.

Sef Tiburcio said...

Life is less beautiful if you will have your pride. Good thing, you swallowed it up and met people you need to talk to. Also, birthdays should be celebrated every year instead of being busy with your job. You are just killing the good vibe each year, if you will keep on missing out important events in your life like what happened before.

April and the City said...

It's always good to swallow your pride and just be humble enough to make peace with you past - whether it's your fault or theirs. As we grow old, it's not a good feeling to know that we have grudges against people.

Good to know you guys are friends again :)

theresa said...

I noticed that this was a very late post. I guess now you are thinking that a lot had happened and you're perspective on things become different. I also have the same feeling lately as I was more open with different things like friends betraying you and that people come and go. Life is too short, we should live it with passion.

Aisha Kristine Chong said...

I guess different people handle it differently.. not that I don't understand them, I do.. but it was good you tried to reconnect once again - you did your part regardless of how it went or how it was.

JOJO VITO said...

I like the tile "Changing Perspective". and yes, we need to look at things on various perspective. At time we are just seeing things from our own perspective but not seeing the other sides point of view.

Len said...

friends are golden treasures, our life is too short to spend on grudges, it's good to know that you will reconnect again with your friend

TweenselMom said...

In my almost 38 years of life, I've learned that disappointments are just inevitable. Whenever I think of something sad, i keep telling myself that time is very short to dwell on things sad.

Peachy @ The Peach Kitchen said...

It's good to catch up with friends specially those you haven't spoken to for a long time or those you have an unspoken difference with. I hope you and your friend were able to reconnect.

Franc said...

I guess life has its ups and downs and that's what friends are for to share in both their happy times and in pain even if we are not that fine.

Franc said...

The more important thing among friends is the capability to compromise.

Sam said...

I think I do that too. I push people away, even those who say they love me because I doubt their love. I'm not sure if this has helped me become better (independent, meet new friends) or worse.

Author said...

this is very touching. while im not a fan of birthday parties i still would encourage people to try and do something enjoyable for their day. it only comes once in a year, right?

Justin Vawter said...

I totally agree with you. I remember when my best friend and I had a huge fight. We didn't talk to each other for almost 3 years. Then one day, we saw each other, talked and we were back to normal as if nothing bad happened. We are actually closer to each other now. I guess some bonds will never be broken. :)

Angelic Sinova said...

t's good to catch up with friends specially ones you don't see often. I was lucky enough to get to visit three of my best fiends (we all live in different cities) this year <3

Carmen Perez said...

It's good that you were able to reconcile with your friend. I think this happens to all of us at some point.

Cara W said...

Thanks for sharing this. My bestfriend is across the world away and when we were younger we often squabbled. Now I miss her. Your post reminded me of her again.

Jaime Nicole said...

You just never know what each day or relationship has to teach you. It's always an adventure even when it is especially tough. Happy 2016 - hope it goes well!

Jessica Ferguson said...

Life is to short to hold grudges. I recently reminded a family member of this who was not on speaking terms with her elderly father. Because of my words she reached out to him and he was receptive and they both laughed and cried and have a great relationship again.

Wendy Knowlton said...

I recently had a situation where I was hurt by a friends actions. I had to decide if the friendship was more important then my hurt. It was and is still now.

Ckrusch said...

I guess life offers ups and downs and how you deal with them determines your path! Love your reflections and your post, because it made me think of my own ups and downs in 2015!

Tyra said...

Life always has a way of throwing us curveballs. it is so much in how you handle the setbacks. And there are some old friends I really need to connect with. This would be a good year to do this.

Mimicutelips said...

I'm all about celebrating birthdays. It doesn't have to be a party but doing something you enjoy. That could be sitting in a quiet corner reading a book or a full on party.

Rebecca Swenor said...

This indeed is a great story and post. It would to me be called a life lesson. I love when the puzzle pieces come together like this in our life. Thanks for sharing.

Ickle Pickle said...

You should celebrate your birthday - it is such a special day. Saying that, I have celebrated less as I have got older. Kaz

Marielle Altenor said...

I'm actually looking forward to my birthday too! I won't be pregnant this time lol I love having people in my life that no matter how long we go without seeing each other we can simply meet up and it will feel like we were never apart! Those are the best people to have in your life.

Echo A said...

It is so true that even though you may overlook some of the threads, that they are still there and sometimes, stronger than ever! I am the same way with my birthdays though!

Stephanie Pass said...

I think it's good you swallowed your pride and went back to your friend. I hate having that guilt and miss the person I had a fight with. I tend to be the first one to give up.